I recently underwent total knee replacement surgery during the CPVID-19 pandemic. The “nonessential surgery” became essential as the knee joint deteriorated. Preparation plans changed, sometimes from day to day as COVID rules changed. Miscommunication became the norm. This invisible virus was controlling what I could do and not do. With the completion of the surgery,…
En Espanol Te dejo por mi Has there ever been a time in your life where you’ve felt that you’ve lost who you are? Lost everything you’ve built. I mean, the dreams you once had are gone. The person who would stand up for herself exists no more. The mani-pedi self-care days have disappeared. The…
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Read Part 2 of 4 Una vez fui la esposa de un pastor Parte 3 de 4 _______________________________________________________________ Is there any hope for this young lady? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/is-there-any-hope-for-me At the end of part 2, I asked a few questions… What do you think of this real-life story so far? How would you address the issues this…
Please read here: For Part 1 In Espanol: Una vez fui la esposa de un pastor Parte 2 de 3 – I Used to Be a Pastor’s Wife – Part 2 of 3 We began to spend more time together, exchanged phone numbers, he met my dad, and he took me to meet…
If you missed part 1, here’s the link… https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/he-chooses-to-abuse-part-1-of-2 In EAW—entitlement-abuser-world, the entitled-ee (Yvonne’s dictionary) is self-privileged and a cousin to narcissism. The entitled-ee’s desires are more important than anyone else almost 100% of the time. They believe they deserve admiration, respect, and have a right to dominance. In the EAW, they perceive themselves…
You may feel as though you are trapped permanently in your abusive relationship; like there is no way out. Living in an abusive relationship is miserable and leaves you feeling hopeless. Sometimes you are paralyzed inside of the fear. Your outlook isn’t very uplifting or appealing and all you can think about are the eggshells…
Need a refresher of series 2? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/5-steps-to-quiet-courage-a-way-out-series-2-of-3 It seems almost impossible to emotionally detach (a defense mechanism used to cope with distressing or overwhelming emotions. It involves disconnection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors) from an abusive marriage, dating situation, toxic family member or co-worker, while you are still in the situation, but you can…
At the end of the last blog we asked two questions. Did you get the chance to answer them? If so, please share your answers by posting a comment. Need a refresher of series 1? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/5-steps-to-quiet-courage-a-way-out-series-1-of-3 Here the questions are: 1) In hindsight, what would you have done different, prior to entering the relationship you…
What does a holocaust survivor and a person experiencing domestic violence have in common? Trauma Bonding. “Trauma bonding is evidenced in any relationship in which the connection defies logic and is very hard to break. The components necessary for a trauma bond to form are a power differential, intermittent good/bad treatment, and high arousal and…