To be disrespected in your by both your husband and children creates an environment in which you cannot flourish. It effects one’s spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being.

You feel that you do not have a Biblical reason for leaving, but do you have a reason that comes from God. There is hardness of heart and abandonment can also be considered. Continue to seek God and he will show you the way.

God has given us our life and we need to be good stewards of it. Abuse is a very destructive force to human life.

There are options on can put in place to not allow further destruction.
1. Figure out the unknowns and leave
2. Emotionally detach
3. Create you own life within your marriage
4. Develop a support system of friends, extended family, people from church, counselor
5. Find fun things to do with friends in order to prevent isolation

There probably are many more that you can think of for you alone know your situation best. God is a God of Justice. He will hold the offenders responsible.

Your situation is serious and has taken a great toll on you. FOCUS Ministries can also be part of your support system. Just contacus@focusministries1.org. We do care and so does God.

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My husband has poisoned my children so that they do not obey me (he’s constantly contradicting me in front of them) if not convenient to them, and my son often treats and speaks to me like his father does.

Even with knowing I’m in an abusive relationship, hating how my husband has treated me (and sometimes the kids over the years…,) and how it’s effected my health, I’m still confused as to what to do, even though I want out. I don’t love him any more and haven’t for many years even though I tried to convince myself that I did and that I just needed to keep forgiving him, and burying the pain.

It’s like wanting to jump off a moving train that’s derailed. I don’t have a very legit Biblical reason for leaving. I’d feel better if I found evidence that he was still viewing porn, but he now has his own lap top that I’m not allowed to use, and I don’t know his password.

I can’t see myself ever leaving which scares me, too–I can’t work full time because of disabilities (that he sometimes supports me with and other times mocks and belittles me for) and would be living like a pauper especially with all of my weird health issues and needs. (I need natural remedies over drugs (that don’t work for me) which is not covered by insurance.)

I feel very trapped and can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with him after the children are gone (the last one is graduating high school in four years).

Each time he visits, I begin to wonder if repentance has taken place so I pay attention to everything he says and does. I told him several months ago that reconciliation will not take place without extensive counseling to which he replied that the Holy Spirit is his counselor. We recently invited him to join us for a Sunday morning house church services; he did most of the talking then closed with a prayer thanking God for “restoration”. We hadn’t seen him for 4 months, we don’t know where he lives, he still does not provide for his children (4 teens), etc. During this time, he secretly criticized me to the kids because I purchased shoes for one and not all (couldn’t afford to) but the Lord had allowed me to find out that he had enough to purchase shoes for them all.

God continues to protect us by divine revelation lest I let my emotions be manipulated and try to make something happen that just isn’t His plan for us.