Comments on: Painfully Alone https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/painfully-alone There is hope in healing! Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:40:07 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.1 By: B.J. McGibboney https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/painfully-alone#comment-210 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:40:07 +0000 http://www.focusministries1.org/blog/?p=235#comment-210 Dear Painfully Alone,
I am praying for you. You are to know that you are not alone in your struggles, but if you do not change the spirit of your mind you will pass on this fear and lack of self-confidence to your children as you have received. Isn’t it ironic that you married the same type of man that your mother married. Did you ever think about how, or why? I know your pain because I was in the same type situation the first husband was emotionally abusive, and the second was physically abusive. I didn’t have a change of heart the spirit of my mind had not been changed and I married the same type person. But after much pain and abuse, (I thought I could change him) with the help of our Lord Jesus Christ I was shown that I had to change the spirit of my mind from God’s perspective. I had to learn from the Word of God who I was in Him, I had to build myself up on the Word of God. You see, you can’t change your abuser, only God can change people. But with your mind changed by the Word of God working actively in you you can change your own situation and go on to live an abundantly life in Christ Jesus. Try as we may to change, it is only the Word of God that changes us. You see we must do the word of God and live the Word of God and not just talk about it. For the Word of God is alive and powerful and able to change us and our situation if we would allow Him to work in our lives. For with Christ all things are possible… The Lord Jesus has given me a ministry born out of my trials to help others to be renewed in their minds by biblical principles and to overcome domestic violence in their lives, thus stopping generational abuse. You are welcome to contact me at my email. May the Lord bless you as you seek to be educated in His ways.

BJ.
Renewal Center for Battered Women
Life Coaching and Support Services, LLC

]]> By: Laurie Hagen McConkey https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/painfully-alone#comment-201 Tue, 02 Aug 2011 19:24:49 +0000 http://www.focusministries1.org/blog/?p=235#comment-201 Dear Painfully Alone;
I was married 30 yrs – My husband was a Pastor. My children & I suffered as you are suffering. I wish I’d gotten out SO Much Sooner! I can actually sit in peace now in my own home & read a book, talk on the phone, etc. Having the support of friends who understand completely was essential for me, and even more crucial in my situation was to find that group of friends to be ones who my husband Does Not Know since he manipulates my friendships in complicated manipulative ways. I’d love to be your friend on Facebook, if you’d like to search for me, I live in Washington State. I’ve found most of my support through Focus Ministries & through online support groups. I Will Pray for You! You Can Do This – You Can Make A Better Life For Yourself & Your Children! -Laurie 🙂

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