Jesus does NOT want you, beloved, to remain paralyzed in an abusive relationship. I have met many women over the course of my 40
Adult years who have been in similar shoes. We all had our nobel – and silly – reasons for staying. We thought we were doing the right thing.

God does not want you to enable evil. If you have children, they know what’s going on even if it’s subtle. You are telling them it’s acceptable to abuse and to be absurd. You don’t want this for your children…. To repeat the sins of the father and mother. Model Christ’s love & rebuke the evil (I think of Jesus in the Father’s house – defending it with a whip, upsetting the status quo and tables, shouting at the sin with Holy righteousness; rebuking the waves – speaking peace; rebuking Petet – “get behind me, Satan).

Jesus did not tolerate sin nor does he expect you or want you to do that. When the Pharisees tried to trip him up about divorce, Jesus saif that it is better to give your wife a certificate of force them to be harsh with her.

Read scriptures about love (1 Cor 13 is a good start) and how husbands are supposed to treat their wives. Paul is replete with examples of a loving and tender husband – the one we dreamed our husband would become, right? I know…

I am glad that I finally walked (ran) away from my elephant 3+ years ago. It was brutal emotionally to give up, to admit “defeat” (I could not be good enough long enough to win approval not would he changed even if I did). Funny thing – as soon as i walked, he was no longer in control. I called the shots. It wasn’t as simplistic as stated but, looking back now, it was easier to leave than tolerate Abuse.

Jesus does NOT want you, beloved, to remain paralyzed in an abusive relationship. I have met many women over the course of my 40
Adult years who have been in similar shoes. We all had our nobel – and silly – reasons for staying. We thought we were doing the right thing.

God does not want you to enable evil. If you have children, they know what’s going on even if it’s subtle. You are telling them it’s acceptable to abuse and to be absurd. You don’t want this for your children…. To repeat the sins of the father and mother. Model Christ’s love & rebuke the evil (I think of Jesus in the Father’s house – defending it with a whip, upsetting the status quo and tables, shouting at the sin with Holy righteousness; rebuking the waves – speaking peace; rebuking Petet – “get behind me, Satan).

Jesus did not tolerate sin nor does he expect you or want you to do that. When the Pharisees tried to trip him up about divorce, Jesus said

I’ll say that there is a boy scout in my husband but not a man of God. He is proud, selfish and demands his own way. I have given him opportunities on multiple occasions to demonstrate change into later ground rules going forward if we are to reconcile. To date this is not occurred and I am pursuing a divorce and moving so that I can be near my children and grandchildren. Yes it will be sad in some respects but I am finally free! Free to be myself, The beautiful woman who God made me to be! For years I hid and buried my talents for fear of breaking the proverbial eggs I was walking on.

Beloved, I don’t know your situation’s precise details but I’m fairly certain I get it. I am praying for you, that you will reach out to someone, that you will unswervingly seek help. Not everyone will believe or understand… (“he’s such a nice guy!”)

But ask God to give you a friend to help you make the necessary changes in your life for his honor and glory. Plan prayerfully or, maybe your life depends on you running to the police. Do it.

And you know what? It is quite possible that by making these changes your husband sees that you will no longer take the abuse. If he is convicted by the Holy Spirit and makes necessary changes – repentance and restitution, lets you call the shots… There is hope. But he must, he MUST be held accountable! Do not – do NOT return to him (or let him know where you are) until everything is in place with accountability, counseling, 12 step programs to help him heal from his own wounds, for help overcoming substance-abuse, anger issues, control issues (like celebrate recovery)…. It’s been years in the making and will not auto correct overnight.

Oh, this is the tip of the iceberg but the Lord is with you and will help you through. He will never hurt you, he will never for sake you, he will never leave you alone, he will provide for you, He will tenderly lead you, and he will thoroughly love you in spite of any mistakes you make! How great is that?! Hold onto God, your true, faithful, loving husband and father.

Peace and love to you and your previous ones!!!

There is a lot of hope as long as our eyes our fixed on the Lord. The hope is in the Lord that He will be with us no matter the circumstances.