Comments on: Grief or Relief? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief There is hope in healing! Tue, 12 Nov 2024 18:15:05 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Chaplain Natalie https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43737 Tue, 12 Nov 2024 18:15:05 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43737 In reply to Teresa.

Dear Teresa, those are VALID questions! I’m thankful that Jesus hears our heart’s cry and understands our deepest pain. He sees, and He hears and He makes a way for healing to happen. I pray that someday your children will actually applaud your courage to escape from the abuse…it is not easy to leave. In the meantime, we will be praying for the Lord to reveal His purposes for the pain…nothing goes to waste. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help…our counseling services are available free of charge due to the kindness of our donors. God bless you!

]]> By: Chaplain Natalie https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43736 Tue, 12 Nov 2024 18:11:04 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43736 In reply to Nancy.

Dear Nancy, praise God for all the healing He has brought to you after all the pain and misery. Isn’t He so kind and faithful? Thank you so much for checking in with us…God bless you.

]]> By: Chaplain Natalie https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43735 Tue, 12 Nov 2024 18:08:57 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43735 In reply to Paula.

Dear Paula, thank you for your kind comment and please accept our most sincere condolences for your husband’s passing. I’m blessed to hear that he did draw near to the Lord towards the end. That is ALWAYS our hope — as long as there is breath, the Lord Jesus can speak to them of His great love and forgiveness and mercy. God bless you and please let us know how we can help.

]]> By: Chaplain Natalie https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43734 Tue, 12 Nov 2024 18:05:09 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43734 Dear Ashley, we are so grateful that you no longer have to live with abuse. We know and understand that the pain can go on and on. Sometimes we need to learn new ways to think and even learn how to have healthy relationships. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help you. Remember our counseling is available to you at no cost, due to the great generosity of our donors. God bless you and we will be praying for all comfort and healing and hope.

]]> By: Ashley https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43733 Sun, 10 Nov 2024 20:52:07 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43733 It was complex grief and complex relief when my abuser died – and every day since (for 12 years). Thank you for acknowledging the complexity. This means so much to me.

]]> By: Paula https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43732 Fri, 08 Nov 2024 21:36:48 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43732 Was blessed in past from FOCUS. I can truly relate to this article. Went back to hub after he was given 6 mths live. Felt God desired me to help; was still wife. Yet God gave him extra 16 years. Last 2 years of marriage was quite good; know he got closer to God. He died 10/23. I have not cried yet; after abuse in past. Why? I truly miss the past 2 years; yet know he is no longer in pain. Such emotions even tho was abusive relationship. Praying for all dealing with this!

]]> By: Nancy https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43731 Fri, 08 Nov 2024 19:10:32 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43731 I am thankful for Focus. After 20 difficult married years, my husband & I divorced. He died about 18 yrs later. One adult child only remembers the fun times with dad, celebrating his birthday still each year and appears to have forgotten the difficulties. The other child had a really hard time as they never reconciled and because his dad had belittled his wife. I was in one of the first face to face Focus classes (thank you) and years later, because I knew I had more healing & understanding to do, I took Leslie Vernick’s online class which helped me let go of more pain & and to understand better how things went so wrong and the roles I did and didn’t play. I still grieve sometimes about the whole mess: the loss of the dream of what might have been different about our lives and the lives of our children. That period gave me both scars and strength and shaped who I am today. God has brought healing, joy, and a lovely, healthy love into my life. There is hope.

]]> By: Teresa https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/grief-or-relief#comment-43730 Wed, 23 Oct 2024 04:47:04 +0000 https://www.focusministries1.org/?p=3517#comment-43730 Wow. This article reaches down to my soul. After years of abuse, I know my children saw but seem not to care for my need to escape and disassociate from the past. Abusers are mind controllers and manipulators making you believe it’s you that’s crazy. This article confirms to me that what they do is known and now hopefully brought into the light for others to know. I’ve questioned God. Why doesn’t he bring them forth for others to see the truth? Why do us that suffer be hidden and viewed as crazy?

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