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How Does Abuse Shrink Her?
WARNING! Domestic Abuse shrinks women and brings them to the state of smallish. These are real life examples:
He wraps the refrigerator with a canvas strap and locks it so that she and the children cannot access the food within unless he is present in the home to unlock it. He controls what they eat and when.
He takes her away from her high school graduation party because she is talking to people other than him.
He refuses to call 9-1-1 when she is in a medical crisis.
He demands receipts for every purchase she makes and sets limits on the amount of money she can spend.
He controls the TV controller and dictates all TV viewing.
He throws a lamp at her. He throws a hammer across the room, breaking a window.
He refuses to allow her to work.
He watches pornography on his phone and laptop, knowing but not caring that she knows.
He requires that she drive him to his workplace and pick him up at the end of the day.
He calls and texts her repeatedly when she goes shopping by herself or out to lunch with a friend.
He openly flirts with other women when she is standing nearby.
He rolls over on top of her in the middle of the night, nearly smothering her with his impressive weight.
He maintains a long-term adulterous relationship with the woman across the street.
He has an affair while she is undergoing breast cancer treatment.
He locks her up in the bedroom.
He tells her she is ugly and smells bad.
He controls all aspects of family planning.
He loudly yells at her so that everyone in the house and neighborhood can hear him
He treats her like a prostitute in the bedroom and calls her degrading names.
He is critical of her cooking, cleaning and mothering.
He compares her to women at church and work who seem to have it all together. He compares her to his previous girlfriends, wife or mother. In his eyes, she can never measure up.
He backs his car out of the driveway recklessly, smashing into the neighbor’s car parked across the street and then speeds away without stopping to inspect the damage either to his car or theirs.
He convinces her doctor that she is depressed and needs to be on long-term heavy medication.
He requires that she ask him for permission to walk out of a room.
He throws his plate of food and his coffee cup at her at dinnertime. He throws her across the bedroom.
He complains about her to the children.
He makes her the butt of endless jokes in front of their children and friends.
He takes her phone and checks her call, text and search history.
He ignores her. He gives her the silent treatment for days or weeks.
He sabotages her business deals.
He blames her. For everything.
He threatens to file divorce against her and take the children away from her.
He puts the house up for sale without her knowledge.
He weed-whacks her flower garden.
He hides her car keys so she can’t drive to work or get the kids to school.
He tells her everyday that he hates her.
He drinks until he throws up and then makes her clean it up.
He kicks the family dog and throws the cat down the stairs.
He tears pages out of her Bible.
He tells the pastor that she has mental problems.
He throws away pictures of her deceased parents.
He pushes her out of the car and leaves her stranded on the side of the road.
He punches holes in the wall with his fist, breaks doors off their hinges and just leaves the damage unrepaired so everyone knows he has the power to hurt and destroy anytime he wants.
He tells her that she isn’t a Christian and God doesn’t love her.
