“After all he has done to me, how can I ever forgive him?” That’s a good question, one I hear often. Yes, he has hurt you badly. Yes, he has stolen so much from you. You are heartbroken at the loss — of self-worth, faith, and dreams of what might have been. So much loss. …
Is it by chance? In these days of terrible news from eastern Europe and much uncertainty in the Middle East and threats in Asia, is it any wonder that the incidents of domestic abuse and violence are also escalating? As lawlessness and violence increase in the nations, isn’t it true that we all know someone…
Little Wife peeked quickly at her phone on the countertop as she prepared breakfast for Big Man. There was a message from a friend who she was not supposed to have any contact with. Big Man had warned her not to communicate with her or there would be serious consequences. The message simply read, “Turn…
Valentine’s Day came and went. Messages of romantic love and Pal-entine love, even Gal-entine love were sent across the cyber spaces among young and old alike. Bouquets of red roses and heart-shaped boxes of milk chocolates, edible arrangements of chocolate-covered strawberries, candle-lit dinners and whispers of “I Love You”…. We love our families, our friends,…
Okay, my imagination or has the month of January 2022 actually turned out to be THREE months rolled into one? The longest 31-day span in history, I believe. Time has stood still and perhaps not in a good way this month. A month of cold, a month of sickness, a month of sameness if you…
I was sharing holiday greetings and sentiments with my friend the other day. She is an amazing person who has overcome many health and medical obstacles in the past couple years, including visual impairment due to diabetes and a broken hip from a hit and run driver as she was crossing the street. We were…
“Who’s afraid of the Big Bad Wolf?” Can you hear that song in your head? Of course, it’s from an old Disney cartoon — the three little pigs are arrogantly singing about how brave they are until the Big Bad Wolf actually shows up at their door. Yikes! Do you have a big bad wolf…
It has taken me a lifetime to finally be broken and humbled to the fact that I am not the author of my life story. I am not the one who controls all life circumstances. In my shame and insecurity I had used the defense “I can just handle things my way, especially with…
I’ve been thinking much about justice this week. I’ve encountered the justice system in two separate counties of Illinois and found great differences in how abused women were heard and helped. There does not seem to be a standard of justice when it comes to domestic abuse. Often it comes down to “he said, she…
We have all asked the questions. Those hard questions. “Where was God when my husband hit me?” “Where were you, God, when I was all alone and nobody believed what was going on in my home?” “God, do you even know what he’s doing to our family?” “Does God even care?” I asked those questions…