This is What Leaving Looks Like
“Just slip out the back, Jack. Make a new plan, Stan. Hop on the bus, Gus. Just get yourself free.” When artist Paul Simon sang those lyrics in 1975, he probably was NOT thinking about domestic abuse. No, I KNOW …
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Little Wife Flies the Coop
Big Man stood in the middle of the street with his hands on his hips, watching Little Wife drive away. “She’s not worth it. She’ll be back. She has nowhere to go and she needs me. She’ll be back in …
Enough is Enough for Little Wife
One Sunday morning, Little Wife and Big Man went to their church. He gripped her hand tightly as they walked in and smiled brightly at the worshippers greeting them at the door. “Good morning! Good morning! Yes, isn’t it a …
Strength of My Heart
Okay, my imagination or has the month of January 2022 actually turned out to be THREE months rolled into one? The longest 31-day span in history, I believe. Time has stood still and perhaps not in a good way this …
Little Wife’s Revenge
Little Wife truly didn’t intend to cause so much embarrassment and discomfort to Big Man. She had a good heart and was only trying to be as helpful and loving as possible. But sometimes things happen…. It was a sunny …
I Was Once a Pastor’s Wife – Part 1 of 3
Like to read this blog In Espanol Shared with permission: We met in the business office of the apartment complex where I lived. He was the I.T. professional, and I was the patient …
He Chooses to Abuse- Part 2 of 2
If you missed part 1, here’s the link… https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/he-chooses-to-abuse-part-1-of-2 In EAW—entitlement-abuser-world, the entitled-ee (Yvonne’s dictionary) is self-privileged and a cousin to narcissism. The entitled-ee’s desires are more important than anyone else almost 100% of the time. They believe they …
He Chooses to Abuse – Part 1 of 2
I frequently speak with women experiencing domestic/intimate partner violence. One of the hardest things I and they, find it hard to believe and accept is that domestic violence is a choice. Not the victim/survivor’s choice, but the abuser’s decision to …
A Foreign Concept – The Profundity of Self-Care
Who is going to take care of everything else if I am taking care of myself? I have a friend named Sophia. Sophia and her 4-year-old twins were going back home to Germany to visit. She listened, with one ear …
Dear Victim — Survivor –Thriver
You may feel as though you are trapped permanently in your abusive relationship; like there is no way out. Living in an abusive relationship is miserable and leaves you feeling hopeless. Sometimes you are paralyzed inside of the fear. Your …