I Was Once a Pastor’s Wife – Part 1 of 3
Like to read this blog In Espanol Shared with permission: We met in the business office of the apartment complex where I lived. He was the I.T. professional, and I was the patient …
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He Chooses to Abuse- Part 2 of 2
If you missed part 1, here’s the link… https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/he-chooses-to-abuse-part-1-of-2 In EAW—entitlement-abuser-world, the entitled-ee (Yvonne’s dictionary) is self-privileged and a cousin to narcissism. The entitled-ee’s desires are more important than anyone else almost 100% of the time. They believe they …
He Chooses to Abuse – Part 1 of 2
I frequently speak with women experiencing domestic/intimate partner violence. One of the hardest things I and they, find it hard to believe and accept is that domestic violence is a choice. Not the victim/survivor’s choice, but the abuser’s decision to …
A Foreign Concept – The Profundity of Self-Care
Who is going to take care of everything else if I am taking care of myself? I have a friend named Sophia. Sophia and her 4-year-old twins were going back home to Germany to visit. She listened, with one ear …
Dear Victim — Survivor –Thriver
You may feel as though you are trapped permanently in your abusive relationship; like there is no way out. Living in an abusive relationship is miserable and leaves you feeling hopeless. Sometimes you are paralyzed inside of the fear. Your …
5 Steps to Quiet Courage, A Way Out – Series 3 of 3
Need a refresher of series 2? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/5-steps-to-quiet-courage-a-way-out-series-2-of-3 It seems almost impossible to emotionally detach (a defense mechanism used to cope with distressing or overwhelming emotions. It involves disconnection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors) from an abusive marriage, dating situation, …
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The Shift (Safety, Hope, Intuition, Focus, Tell)
What is the shift? When you feel safe you can begin to hope, trusting your intuition as your guide. Focus on Christ for ultimate satisfaction. Tell someone you trust what you are experiencing. You matter! You! Yes, I’m talking to …
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5 Steps to Quiet Courage, A Way Out – Series 1 of 3
What does a holocaust survivor and a person experiencing domestic violence have in common? Trauma Bonding. “Trauma bonding is evidenced in any relationship in which the connection defies logic and is very hard to break. The components necessary for a …
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