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Dear Victim — Survivor –Thriver
ByPaula Silva January 30, 2020January 30, 2020

You may feel as though you are trapped permanently in your abusive relationship; like there is no way out. Living in an abusive relationship is miserable and leaves you feeling hopeless. Sometimes you are paralyzed inside of the fear. Your outlook isn’t very uplifting or appealing and all you can think about are the eggshells…

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5 Steps to Quiet Courage, A Way Out – Series 3 of 3
ByPaula Silva January 27, 2020

Need a refresher of series 2? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/5-steps-to-quiet-courage-a-way-out-series-2-of-3 It seems almost impossible to emotionally detach (a defense mechanism used to cope with distressing or overwhelming emotions. It involves disconnection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors) from an abusive marriage, dating situation, toxic family member or co-worker, while you are still in the situation, but you can…

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Abusive Relationships | Domestic Violence | Insights | Intuition | Psychological Wounds | Self-esteem | Spiritual Warfare | Survivor

The Shift (Safety, Hope, Intuition, Focus, Tell)
ByPaula Silva January 21, 2020January 23, 2020

What is the shift? When you feel safe you can begin to hope, trusting your intuition as your guide. Focus on Christ for ultimate satisfaction. Tell someone you trust what you are experiencing. You matter! You! Yes, I’m talking to you. The one reading this post. When God made you, He didn’t make a mistake….

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5 Steps to Quiet Courage, A Way Out – Series 2 of 3
ByPaula Silva January 20, 2020

At the end of the last blog we asked two questions. Did you get the chance to answer them? If so, please share your answers by posting a comment. Need a refresher of series 1? https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/5-steps-to-quiet-courage-a-way-out-series-1-of-3 Here the questions are: 1) In hindsight, what would you have done different, prior to entering the relationship you…

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Abusive Relationships | Betrayal | Domestic Violence | Effects of Abuse | God's Faithfulness | Grief | Insights | Intuition | Marriage | Psychological Wounds | Self-esteem | Spiritual Direction | Survivor | Trauma

5 Steps to Quiet Courage, A Way Out – Series 1 of 3
ByPaula Silva January 13, 2020January 13, 2020

What does a holocaust survivor and a person experiencing domestic violence have in common? Trauma Bonding. “Trauma bonding is evidenced in any relationship in which the connection defies logic and is very hard to break. The components necessary for a trauma bond to form are a power differential, intermittent good/bad treatment, and high arousal and…

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Abusive Relationships | Children and domestic violence | Domestic Violence | DV Effects on Children | Effects of Abuse | Grief | Insights

Abuse Speaks from the Womb
ByPaula Silva January 8, 2020

According to the CDC, Pregnancy can be an especially dangerous time for people in abusive relationships, and abuse can often begin or escalate during the pregnancy. It’s common that an abusive partner will become resentful and jealous that the attention is shifting from them to the pregnancy. They may be stressed at the thought of…

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An Engagement Ring for Christmas – Part 3
ByPaula Silva January 2, 2020

Have you picked up on any red flags as you were reading parts 1 and 2? I hope so! Missed Part 2, no worries! Click on the link for the last post… https://www.focusministries1.org/blog/engaged-at-christmas-part-2 Eva and Jessica were sitting in Jessica’s living room when her phone rang…again. It was Jason, who was phone stalking her….

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Engaged at Christmas – Part 2
ByPaula Silva December 23, 2019December 23, 2019

In the last post, you were introduced to Eva and Jason who had a whirlwind courtship. They met in July, quickly fell in love, and before Eva had the chance to catch her breath, Jason proposed—in October, three months after they met. Eva was beginning to pick up on a few things, in her spirit but…

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An Engagement Ring for Christmas – Part One
ByPaula Silva December 17, 2019

Eva and Jason were in the throes of a whirlwind courtship. They met in July, quickly fell in love, and before Eva had the chance to catch her breath, Jason proposed—in October, three months after they met. It was Christmas Eve and they were at her parent’s home for dinner. Out of the corner of…

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POWER – VICTORY – AUTHORITY IN THE NAMES OF JESUS!
ByPaula Silva December 11, 2019

The calling out (to cry unto, speaking aloud) of His name brings enormous victory! So, the next time you are caught in the midst of fear, anger, grief, etc. call out and depend on the name that is guaranteed to make demons tremble! The name that is above all names! Which of the names below…

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